People made mistakes in life. Sometimes it’s because they were dumb, sometimes it’s because they were too naive, other times it’s because their ego fooled them.
Now, let’s divide the subjects into two groups; 1. The hurt side, 2. The motherfucker.
When you’re in the position of the hurt side it might be easier for you to think about this because you’re the one who’s going to decide whether the motherfucker deserves a second chance or nah. If you think the mistake is still tolerable, then you might open the door for them. If it’s not, then you might just close the door forever. Please note that it has nothing to do with forgiveness, it’s completely a different chapter. People can forgive but never give the second chance, but people who give the second chance most probably have dealt with forgiveness (or at least have tried).
Then what’s the case for the motherfucker? Do they get to choose?
Sadly they don’t. They’re the mistake maker. They don’t have any options to change the hurt side’s decision. The only best thing they can do is, if the hurt side push them away and lock the door, just turn around and continue life. Don’t make the situation worse by begging the hurt side to open the door. If you’re in the motherfucker position, you never know how huge it takes for the hurt one to keep up with you. You might not understand how they trusted you or how they loved you when you break them into pieces. but if they let you in, then you need to work your ass off to be a better person for them. Pay for your mistakes.
So, if you ask me do people deserve a second chance? The answer from me is, it depends on the hurt side. If you’re the motherfucker, you messed things up, you need to swallow the pill of being rejected and not given a chance to fix your relation with the hurt. But once you get allowed to enter their space, do your best. The broken glass might not appear the same as it was before, even if you try hard to covered the cracks with something. It will still look ugly though. But at least it’s better than let the pieces lie on the floor, where it can hurt more people.
The thing that one often forget about second chance is, most people don’t like something that can’t please their eyes. The fixed broken glass isn’t pretty at all. So it is make sense if they tend to swipe all the glass crashes and throw it away. Easier. Meanwhile other people, in some cases, would still value the glass (it can be the factor of its memory or its function or else) and would still down to try to pick it up and fix everything. Even if they will hurt while doing it. But again it depends to the people, the hurt side.
I knew how painful it is when you’re being hurt by someone you trust most, I understand how broken you are. I also knew how fucked up it is when you messed things up, when you were hunted by guilt forever. But the guilt is equal to their pain. No chance is a cost that you should pay. And second chance is a rare blessing that may never be as enjoyable as before, but it is indeed a thing you should be grateful for.
